Relationship tarot spread (Support, Spark and Sex)

Last Updated: October 26, 2022

This supportive 7 card relationship tarot spread can offer you solutions for communication, key reminders of your relationship and sexy ideas for spicing things up. Through tarot, we can take a moment to be present in our relationship. 

It gives us a focus that isn’t a phone screen or a Netflix binge, and it aids us in our connection to our spiritual growth as well as our familial growth. This is a tarot spread to know what your partner is feeling or thinking about often, and gives you a tool to articulate what you may struggle to chat about normally. 

Whilst tarot sometimes has structured meanings, follow your intuition and take it as an opportunity to connect to each other with no barriers. This seven card tarot spread also contains a prompt for bringing in some spice to your sexual aspect of the relationship, and if that’s not something you don’t want to focus on then simply leave those aspects out. 

With the sex life tarot spread aspects, I recommend the Minor Arcana. Pentacles indicates taking things slower with tangible tools, Cups indicates working on the Romantic aspects such as flirting/dating/roleplay, Swords indicates emotional connection more through trust and communication (Shibari, Bondage etc – look into this safely please) and Wands indicates trying new positions, being more active with positions, and confidence building through self-empowerment and auto-eroticism. 

If you’d like further guidance on this specific type of tarot reading, I’d be happy to perform it with you using some of my beautiful decks that will bring clarity and additional support to you both.

Spread position & questions to ask

To begin, shuffle your tarot deck and draw a card for each position as shown in the below layout.

Finally, take some time to reflect on the questions that each card position represents and what message the tarot cards in that position might be trying to tell you. If you’re just starting to learn tarot, or if you’re still getting to know your deck, you may find my in-depth articles on the meanings of every tarot card helpful.

  1. What you need right now
  2. what they need right now
  3. How to recognise this need from each other
  4. Your strength as a team
  5. A card to describe what the relationship will be like in the near future
  6. Foreplay idea
  7. The energy that will spice up the sexual aspects of the relationship

What to do after this relationship tarot reading

After you’ve finished a tarot reading, there are a few things you can do in order to reflect on the experience and integrate the insights you gained. Here are some suggestions:

Use a tarot journal to record your findings

Jotting down your thoughts in a tarot journal after reading can be helpful in a few ways. First, it can help you remember the details of your reading later on, such as how you felt at the moment and perhaps your first impressions of what a card meant. Second, it can provide a space for you to process the information you’ve received and explore what it means for you. Third, it can be a way to keep track of your progress over time as you revisit your journal entries and reflect on your journey.

Take a picture of the cards

If you want to remember the position of the cards and what they meant in relation to your questions, take a picture of the spread. This will help you look back on the reading later and review the insights you received. Sometimes, clarity is better acquired after you’ve stepped back from the situation for a little while and had some time to process it.

Some people create Instagram accounts or Pinterest accounts specifically for this, and if you use any of our spreads please tag us @backyardbanshee if you feel comfortable!

Take some time to meditate and reflect

Immediately after a tarot reading, it’s important to take some time to sit with the insights you’ve received. This can be done through proper meditation, visualisation, or simply taking some time to reflect on the reading. It can be helpful to think about what the messages from the cards mean for your life and how you can apply the advice that was given to you. That time can also be used to replenish your energy level and cleanse your tarot deck.

Get a second opinion from a close friend

If you have close friends who also happen to be tarot practitioners, it can be helpful to get their take on your reading. They may be able to offer additional insights or perspectives that you hadn’t considered before. This is also a good way to get feedback on your own interpretation of the cards.

Ensure to ask permission before just blindly sending your cards across in a message and saying “what does this mean to you?” as your friends may not have the energy or have a boundary with this sort of thing – manners cost nothing, and this is especially to note if they are a professional tarot reader who normally gets paid to interpret readings.

Layer your reading with more divination

Why not try adding astrology dice or a pendulum reading to your tarot session? Your intuition will guide you on how to best use these tools, but they can be helpful in providing more clarity around the messages from your tarot reading. We have lots of methods for you to utilise here on the website.

Do the same reading a month later

This is a great way to check in on your progress and see how far you’ve come. It can also be helpful in understanding the cyclical nature of our lives and how our current situation is likely to change over time. This can be especially useful if you’re struggling with a decision or trying to figure out which path to take as to offer suggestions, provide perspective and encourage your confidence to move forward.

At the end of the day, tarot readings are meant to be a helpful tool, not a replacement for your own intuition. The best way to use tarot is to combine the insights you receive with your own understanding of the situation. Trust your gut and follow your heart—the answers you’re looking for will come.

It is my hope that these tarot spreads on my website help you with clarity and articulate whatever is going on. Let me know what you think of this tarot spread in the comments below and if you have any questions, please feel free to reach out to me.


I have been passionate about reading divination for more than 15 years. This gives me a unique perspective when it comes to creating fun, supportive and creative tarot spreads. I hope they help you find the clarity and insight you are looking for.

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