Sensuous Build - Sex Tarot Spread | Over 18s advisory
Last Updated: November 11, 2022
When we ignore our own desires, we can begin to feel lost and unfulfilled. But when we embrace them, we can create a life that is truly ours! This may seem like a daunting task, but it can be accomplished by using a sex tarot spread. I know, of course I am going to say that tarot will help – but it always does! A sex tarot spread can help us identify our innermost desires and help us to bring them into our lives. In this tarot spread, we will discuss how to build sensuality into your everyday life and how to listen to your own inner desires. We hope that by doing so, you will find the happiness and fulfilment that you are searching for!
Sex, Magick and Empowerment
Magick to me is featured heavily around ultimately creating the change I wish to see, for whatever end reason. There’s nothing more empowering than when divination and witchery work, than when you see the results you have been manifesting, and when you have also been supporting that goal through action – it’s an even better pay off. Backyard Banshee as a whole is a sex positive place, and we love to encourage self-pleasure and sensuality as a way to get to know yourself, as well as to find a confident power (whether you keep it secret or whether you unabashedly bring it up over the morning coffee). And like magick, sex is as sacred as it is fun.
Combined, they both offer an opportunity for personal power, for self-discovery and growth. If you find yourself struggling to bring more sex into your life, or to feel confident and empowered around your sexuality, I highly recommend using a sex magick spell or the tarot spread below!
Sensuous Build Sex Tarot Spread
To begin, shuffle your tarot deck and draw a card for each position as shown in the below layout.
Finally, take some time to reflect on the questions that each card position represents and what message the tarot cards in that position might be trying to tell you. If you’re just starting to learn tarot, or if you’re still getting to know your deck, you may find my in-depth articles on the meanings of every tarot card helpful.
Tarot Card #1 - Inner Desire Suppression
This is the card that represents what is holding you back from embracing your inner desires. It may be a fear or a belief that you have about yourself or about sex. This is the card that may also represent what others expect from you in regard to sex. It may be a pressure that you feel from yourself or from society, but what is causing you to suppress your own sexual desires? What is at the root of the problem? Is it a lack of confidence? A fear of intimacy? A traumatic experience? The root of the problem may come up in the tarot, but it’s wise to ponder upon this pen to paper beforehand when you feel comfortable to explore.
Tarot Card #2 - Healing Insecurities
This card comes in with suggestions on how to combat insecurities that prevent you from enjoying pleasure. Some things to bear in mind whilst you are looking into the tarot responses:
1. Don’t be afraid to be open and vulnerable with your partner(s).
2. Be honest about your insecurities and work together to find solutions.
3. Remember that you love you, flaws and all.
4. Take time for self-care and do things that make you feel good.
5. When you’re feeling insecure, reach out to your partner(s) for reassurance and support. If you are still not feeling reassured, it’s ok to work with a sex coach or a professional on this.
Tarot Card #3: Communicate Confidently
When this card comes up, it can show us either some advice in regards to how you are currently communicating, or it can support you with how to improve honest communication, so that confidently you can share what you need. This can show up like the Eight of Wands, which can suggest a time of high energy and action where things are moving quickly, or the Ace of Cups which can show a pure, honest and loving new stream of communication.
Tarot Card #4: How to feel sexier, more sensuous every single day
When this card comes up for you, it’s time to get in touch with your senses. Indulge in activities that make you feel more alive, such as dancing, listening to music, eating delicious food or spending time in nature. Pay attention to what turns you on and let yourself be seduced by life. The point is not to overindulge, but to find a balance between hedonism and self-control.
This card can also indicate that you need to add more variety and spice to your life. If you’re feeling bored or stuck in a rut, it’s time to try something new. Be open to new experiences and let yourself be surprised by what life has to offer. You may find inspiration in the imagery of the card or you can decipher some suggestions from the important card themes.
Tarot Card #5: What can spice up my sex life
When this card comes up for you, it’s suggesting that you consider ways to bring some excitement and adventure into your sex life. This can be done in a number of ways, depending on what will work best for you and your relationship. Maybe you need to spend more time planning special date nights, or perhaps you need to add a new activity or hobby that you can do together. Whatever it is, the key is to find something that will help to rekindle the spark and keep things interesting.
If you’re not currently in a relationship, then this card can suggest that you need to put some more excitement into your dating life. This may mean trying new things, meeting new people, or just generally being more open to new experiences. This can show up like the Four of Pentacles which suggests that you need to break out of your comfort zone a bit, be more generous with your resources to find opportunities if you want to find better sex. Trust that the Universe will bring you what you need, and be open to receiving it.
Tarot Card #6: Hot sexy tip for me
This is the most “THIS IS WHAT YOU SHOULD TRY” card in the spread – what’s a sexy tip for me, that will make it all so much more fun? A very literal Ace of Wands suggests a certain type of toy indeed, or maybe it’ll be Five of Cups – suggesting that even though someone may not be right for you, it could be fun for right now. Just don’t allow room for disappointment!
Whatever type of card you pull for this spread, it is for inspiration, and overall you have the final say about how your sex life is run.
Try this 6-card Sensuous Build free Sex Tarot Reading now with the below online interactive tarot spread
What to do after this tarot reading
After you’ve finished a tarot reading, there are a few things you can do in order to reflect on the experience and integrate the insights you gained. Here are some suggestions:
Use a tarot journal to record your findings
Jotting down your thoughts in a tarot journal after reading can be helpful in a few ways. First, it can help you remember the details of your reading later on, such as how you felt at the moment and perhaps your first impressions of what a card meant. Second, it can provide a space for you to process the information you’ve received and explore what it means for you. Third, it can be a way to keep track of your progress over time as you revisit your journal entries and reflect on your journey.
Take a picture of the cards
If you want to remember the position of the cards and what they meant in relation to your questions, take a picture of the spread. This will help you look back on the reading later and review the insights you received. Sometimes, clarity is better acquired after you’ve stepped back from the situation for a little while and had some time to process it.
Some people create Instagram accounts or Pinterest accounts specifically for this, and if you use any of our spreads please tag us @backyardbanshee if you feel comfortable!
Take some time to meditate and reflect
Immediately after a tarot reading, it’s important to take some time to sit with the insights you’ve received. This can be done through proper meditation, visualisation, or simply taking some time to reflect on the reading. It can be helpful to think about what the messages from the cards mean for your life and how you can apply the advice that was given to you. That time can also be used to replenish your energy level and cleanse your tarot deck.
Get a second opinion from a close friend
If you have close friends who also happen to be tarot practitioners, it can be helpful to get their take on your reading. They may be able to offer additional insights or perspectives that you hadn’t considered before. This is also a good way to get feedback on your own interpretation of the cards.
Ensure to ask permission before just blindly sending your cards across in a message and saying “what does this mean to you?” as your friends may not have the energy or have a boundary with this sort of thing – manners cost nothing, and this is especially to note if they are a professional tarot reader who normally gets paid to interpret readings.
Layer your reading with more divination
Why not try adding astrology dice or a pendulum reading to your tarot session? Your intuition will guide you on how to best use these tools, but they can be helpful in providing more clarity around the messages from your tarot reading. We have lots of methods for you to utilise here on the website.
Do the same reading a month later
This is a great way to check in on your progress and see how far you’ve come. It can also be helpful in understanding the cyclical nature of our lives and how our current situation is likely to change over time. This can be especially useful if you’re struggling with a decision or trying to figure out which path to take as to offer suggestions, provide perspective and encourage your confidence to move forward.
At the end of the day, tarot readings are meant to be a helpful tool, not a replacement for your own intuition. The best way to use tarot is to combine the insights you receive with your own understanding of the situation. Trust your gut and follow your heart—the answers you’re looking for will come.
What do you think of this 6-card tarot spread for sex, magick and empowerment? Do you find it helpful? Do you use tarot spreads for helping you find clarity? Let me know via email or social! 🙂 thank you for reading and enjoy your tarot session, as well as your time alone!
I have been passionate about reading divination for more than 15 years. This gives me a unique perspective when it comes to creating fun, supportive and creative tarot spreads. I hope they help you find the clarity and insight you are looking for.
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