Break Up Tarot Spread: 8 Spreads for Healing, Moving On, and Decision Making

Last Updated: September 26, 2023

Breaking up is never easy. It can leave us feeling heartbroken, lost, and unsure of what to do next. It might have been your decision, or it was a decision that was made for you. Either way, the end of a relationship can be a challenging and emotional time.

Tarot is here to help you navigate through this challenging period and can provide guidance or clarity during these difficult times. These 8 break up tarot spreads will guide you towards healing, moving on, and making important decisions with clarity and strength.

Card layout and questions to ask

To begin, shuffle your deck and draw a card for each position as shown in the layout below

Finally, take some time to reflect on the questions that each card position represents and what message the tarot cards in that position might be trying to tell you.

If you’re just starting to learn tarot, or if you’re still getting to know your deck, you may find my in-depth articles on the meanings of every tarot card helpful.

Break Up Tarot Spread: The Healing Heart

This spread focuses on finding inner peace and healing after a break-up. It can provide insight into what needs to be let go of, what needs to be nurtured, and how to move forward.

What do I need to let go of?

This card will show you what needs to be released in order to heal. This may look like the Empress, a card known usually for nurturing, but in this case, it can signify letting go of codependency or unhealthy patterns. Or it may look like the Three of Wands, which would symbolise for you the need to let go of travel expectations and move forward in terms of teamwork.

How can I heal from this break-up?

Whenever there is a split, there is always a part of us that we leave behind, and in doing so we may never recover or recuperate these parts. What this card is showing you is how you can find new ways of healing. This may look like the Star, a card known for hope and rejuvenation, guiding you towards finding new ways to heal your heart – so with hard work for yourself in front of you, just have faith knowing you’ll come out the other side.

What blessings are in these lessons right now?

It can be difficult to pinpoint whether things are actually working in our favour now a relationship is over, and that is where we will find new ways to move forward. Look out for more meanings in your cards like the Wheel of Fortune, a card representing fate and positive changes, guiding you towards finding blessings in unexpected places during this difficult time.

What should I prioritize focus on for my own self-care?

I really wouldn’t want you to let yourself not be a priority right now, so looking at ways to improve your self-care routine or how to make it more of a priority through tarot advice may look like the 6 of Pentaclesfor you, a card known for giving and receiving, reminding you to give yourself the care and attention that you deserve, to be generous and kind to yourself as a priority right now.

What can I do to move forward in a positive way?

This is some inspiration from the cards as opposed to “set in stone” guidance, and it may even look like The Moon, a card often associated with reflection and intuition, reminding you to trust your inner knowing and follow your heart as you move forward. Whether it’s starting a new hobby or focusing on self-growth, trust yourself and take positive steps towards the future. It may even be more literal, and ask you to work with New Moon rituals or Full Moon Prayers to guide you.

Ways I can healthily process my emotions right now?

As an idea this card may suggest ways to cathartically and healthily express yourself and what you’re feeling, which doesn’t involve lashing out or being harsh to yourself and others. This card may be the Page of Cups, a card known for creativity and emotional expression, encouraging you to write, paint, or create in any way that helps you process your emotions in a healthy and productive way.

Ways I can heal my heart?

As an idea, this card may suggest ways to strengthen and heal your heart on an emotional level. This may look like the 9 of Cups for you, a card known for contentment and emotional fulfilment, reminding you to take time to do things that bring you joy and nurture your heart.

Ways I can soothe my mind when it’s being overactive about the breakup?

And as a final bit of advice from the cards, when you find your mind being overactive or stuck in painful memory circuits, then this may be a way to unwind and calm down, through a card like the 2 of Swords, representing balance and decision making. Use meditation or mindfulness techniques to bring yourself back to a place of peace and clarity.

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Break Up Tarot Spread: The Moving On Map

Feeling stuck and unsure of how to move on? This spread provides guidance on how to let go of the past and embrace the future.

Where am I currently on my journey of moving on?
What is holding me back from moving on?
How can I move forward from where I am right now?
What can I do to release any lingering emotions or attachments?
How can I find closure and acceptance in this situation?
What actions should I take to move forward and create a new path for myself?

Relationship Clarity Tarot Spread: The Decision Dilemma

If you’re struggling with making an important decision related to your break up, this spread can help you gain clarity and confidence in your choice. When it comes to considering a break-up, consider your needs and what has brought you to this point in the first place. What are your needs, and what is it that you want? Try these card questions to see if it helps articulate what is going on with you.

What happens if I do nothing, or if nothing changes?
What does a break look like for us?
What are my current feelings towards the decision I need to make?
What is influencing my decision-making process?
What do I need to consider before making a decision?
What potential outcomes can I expect from each option?
If we stick together what needs to change?
What is the best course of action for me to take?
How can I focus on replenishing my own needs outside of this relationship?

Moving On Tarot Spread: The Closure Quest

Closure is an important part of the healing process after a breakup. This spread can help you find closure and move forward with peace and understanding.

What do I need to understand for closure?
How can I let go of any lingering emotions or attachments?
What lessons can I learn from this experience?
What can I do to release any negativity or resentment towards my ex-partner?
How can I find closure and acceptance in this situation?
How should I begin my healing journey?

Post-Break-Up Tarot Spread: The Self-Love Journey

After a break-up, it’s important to focus on loving and taking care of yourself. This spread encourages self-love and nurturing during this vulnerable time.

What aspects of myself do I need to focus on for self-love?
How can I best take care of myself during this time?
What positive qualities do I possess that I should embrace and celebrate?
What can I do to boost my self-esteem and confidence?
How can I rebuild self-worth post-relationship?
How can I rebuild self-trust post-relationship?
How can I continue to show love and kindness towards myself moving forward?

Moving On Tarot Spread: The Future Forecast

This spread provides insight into what the future holds post-breakup. It can help you see the potential for new beginnings and opportunities.

What opportunities lie ahead of me after this break-up?
What have I gained from this relationship that benefits me in the future?
What do I need to focus on in order to manifest a positive future for myself?
How can I release any fears or doubts I have about the future?
What lessons can I carry with me into my new journey?
What can I look back on fondly?
What advice does the universe have for me moving forward?

Relationship Tarot Spread: The Support Network

During a break-up, it’s important to lean on your support system for love and guidance. This spread helps you identify who will be there for you during this time.

Who is my biggest supporter during this break-up?
How can I best communicate with my support system for comfort and guidance?
What advice does my support system have for me during this time?
How can I show gratitude towards those who are helping me through this?
How can I continue to rely on my support system as I move forward?
Finally what help should I ask for, or be open to receiving at this time?

Optimistic Romantic Tarot Spread: The New Beginnings

This spread focuses on the potential for new beginnings after a break-up. It can provide insight into what your future holds and how to embrace it.

What new opportunities are waiting for me in the future?
How will this break-up lead me towards personal growth and transformation?
What positive qualities do I possess that will benefit me in my future endeavors?
How can I let go of the past and embrace new beginnings with an open heart?
What advice does the universe have for me as I embark on a new journey?

No matter where you are in your break-up journey, these tarot spreads are here to support and guide you. Remember to take care of yourself and trust in the process – new beginnings are on the horizon. So grab your tarot deck, find a quiet spot, and let the cards provide comfort, clarity, and hope as you move forward. You’ve got this, witch!